I hear the same thing almost every time I have an intake with a man and ask the question “When did you discover pornography and unhealthy sexual behavior?”
The answer is almost always, “Around the ages of 6-12, some form of sexuality came into my story, generally setting into addiction sometime in Jr high or High school…”
By the time most men get into our adult program, we are having to work through decades of bad decisions and addictive patterns that have built up over years and years of them trying to do this on their own and ultimately falling back into the same old patterns of behavior.
Every man in a 423 community group understands the pain and hopelessness of trying and failing to overcome their behaviors on their own, whatever they might be. Yet they all possess the Courage and Humility to admit that they need the help of other men.
I am assuming that since you are here, in some way, you have come to the place of realizing that you need help. You didn’t land in this spot by accident, the culmination of a lifetime of triggers, trauma, neglect and shame have built this addictive process that now surrounds you.
The process of unwinding those moments is a slow, steady, intentional journey of uncovering the past, processing the present and looking forward towards a future you, that is living in restoration.
Whether you are 15, 25, 50, or 75, our stories are nearly always the same, men and women who have tried and failed to find healing from the shame and brokenness of unhealthy sexual behaviors. Unfortunately somewhere close to 92% of men and 60% of women are wrestling with unhealthy sexual behaviors and don’t know how to move towards healing.
I, myself,(Joel Warneking) stumbled into a 423 community almost 10 years ago and I can say that this has been the single most impactful thing in my journey towards finding restoration.
As you you move towards learning about what all this means, I want you to know that we are here for you every step of the way. I encourage you, take that next step and start your recovery today.
You can do this, but you can’t continue to do this alone.
Our 423 Men’s groups meet weekly all over the country, groups meet online, in-person, or in hybrid meetings. Find a group that fits with your schedule and get started today!
ANNNOYMOUS MEN TESTIMONIES
"By God's grace, I was able to turn my life around and break free of the bondage of my sexual addictions. 423 Men played a critical role in placing the right guys in my life."
“I joined 423 Men a year ago and for the first time in my life I am making strides that I never thought were possible. Every week I meet with a group of men who fight the same fight I do.”
"My first 423 Men’s group was incredibly accepting and loving. I was able to open up about my fears and failures without being judged and was encouraged by others who earnestly sought sobriety and integrity. I met one of my closest friends and mentors in that group."
“I knew 423 Men was where I needed to be. I had spent thirty-one years, since becoming a believer in Jesus, pleading with God to take away my wrong sexual practices. I have been active in my 423 Men group for nearly two years, and I am so thankful for my new community accountability and acceptance.”
“I’ve learned a lot in my four years in 423 Communities. Most importantly, I’ve learned the striking truth of love. God, who created the cosmos in all his endless glory, looks down upon you and me and says, “You’re worth everything to me.”
“I thank Jesus daily for the community God has given me in 423 Men.”
"Before, there was no light at the end of my dark tunnel. But now, thanks to Christ, 423 Communities, and, of course, my beautiful wife who fought faithfully by my side, I am, for the first time in three decades… standing in the light!"
"I was a mess, but 423 Men offered me unconditional love, a shame-free recovery experience and a hope for something better."
